Adoption is eye opening! You have to look deep inside yourself and really think about your values and beliefs. You look at your partner’s morals and values in relation to your own, because you are making a lifetime commitment to God, and to a precious little baby. You have to think about what religious beliefs you want to instill in them and how you will provide for them. What will you do for fun, and what are your expectations? Who will care for the child should something happen to you? Will one of you be a stay at home parent? What is your financial situation? Is your home safe for a baby? While these questions are probably also considered by biological parents, too, they are not required to submit their answers for judgement and determination of parenting eligibility.
If that’s not enough, you must also consider the birth family situation, and what your feelings, opinions, and ideals are. Are you particular about the baby’s race? Do you hope the baby resembles you? Does it matter to you if the birth mother is nearby or faraway? Do you want her to be involved in your child’s life? Or do you just want to send the occasional photo?
These are just a few of the soul-searching, heart-wrenching questions potential adoptive parents must not only think about, but must provide the answers to. Then, based on your answers an agency, the state, an attorney, and/or a birth mother decides if you qualify to be a parent. They decide if you have enough money to provide, enough love to give. Let me tell you, if you are strong enough, brave enough, to jump through the hoops, to search the depths of your soul, and to give all you have to this process that might make you a parent, then you surely have enough passion, enough heart to be a parent.
Adoptive Parenting- Some Serious Soul Searching
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